What ever happened to, "Your word is your bond?" It seems these days, people tend to give their word without the slightest intention of honoring it.
The experts will tell you integrity is the core character trait found in successful and highly effective leaders. If your customers, co-workers, colleagues or acquaintances can't trust your word, take a look behind you. No one is following.
How solid or reliable is your word? I asked myself that recently, after settling into the first chapter of Duane Cummings' provocative book, "The Sensational Salesman."
You can speed through this intriguing narrative that chronicles the self-destruction of a young, dishonest salesman. It's that good and engaging a read. But I took the slow road to follow Thomas, the main character, and his sensational transformation. Why? Because the lessons he learns along the path to redemption are arresting, Well, at least, they arrested me. And the first lesson on honesty and integrity would not release me until I did some serious assessment on the value of "our word."
It's "our word" that measures our integrity. It reflects character, reveals the true you. That's why it's crucial not to toss your word around casually.
Some people make ambitious pledges on a whim to worthy causes, with good intentions. But once the emotional thrill is gone, so goes the will to follow through on the commitment.
If we are to be people of integrity, the simple act of keeping our word is a good place to start. Not too long ago, a man's word chiseled his reputation. If he broke it, his honor would crack or crumble. Some would have rather died than renege on a promise. Now-a-days, many people keep commitments only if and when they feel like it. But your broken word chips away at your trustworthiness as a leader or a layman.
Tips to Build Integrity:
So, here are twelve tips you might consider to build or fortify your integrity:
1. Keep your commitments to yourself. If you don't, you'll create internal turmoil and self-sabotage.
2. Don't make commitments you know you can't honor. That only breeds frustration.
3. Don't rush to please people by making empty promises. You'll only
disappoint them and yourself in the long run.
4. Strive to be a person of honor. Don't say one thing and do another.
5. Value other people's time. If you make an appointment, keep it.
6. If you must break a commitment, give proper and timely notice.
People will respect you for being considerate.
7. Don't base your promised word on feelings or emotions. Feelings are
fleeting. Our word should stand firm.
8. Always speak the truth in love. Don't try to spare people's feeling by
being dishonest and inauthentic.
9. Know your limitations. Don't be a hero and overburden yourself with
commitments. Something will suffer.
10. Just say no. Don't feel obligated. Better to say, "I can't" and disappoint up front, than to agree to a task and then fail to follow through.
11. Value yourself and your time. You can't be all things to all people.
Don't give place to guilt because you can't accommodate everybody.
12. Don't be haphazard. When you do commit to a task, perform it to the best of your ability.
Your word is like currency. Anybody should be able to take it to the bank. But if all you are depositing is empty commitments, that currency has no value. And your character becomes worthless.
Value and honor your word. Indeed, that will yield a rich supply of personal integrity.
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